If there's ever a time that you don't want to be bogged down with questions... it's while you're planning your wedding. But chances are, you're going to have a handful of guests checking in with you. Do your best to avoid every guest (and their mama) calling and texting you by providing this info clearly for them. Keep reading for some of the most common questions guests ask and how to handle them!
Can I bring my kids?
This can be such a tough one! Where do you draw the line? Do you feel OK having close family children in attendance (hello adorable flower girl and ring bearer!) but you'd rather not have all of your friends with their little one's in tow? 9 times of out 10 most guests with kiddos prefer to leave them at home so they can fully enjoy the evening. When it comes down to it, this is your Big Day and you can do what you want, but be prepared for some guests to spring this question on you.
While the obvious solution is to put 'no kids' on your wedding invitation, it might not be the vibe your hoping to send when your guests open up that envelope. Here are a couple other ways to say no kiddos allowed:
The way you address is your invitations is a subtle way to get this point across. Address the invite to the adults only, rather than "The Smith Family". This leaves room for questioning still, so take it a step further with the approach below.
Another option is to include a wedding website link with more details, where you can address that this event is for big kids only. Some positive ways to word it:
"We look forward to celebrating with you! Kick your shoes off and enjoy a relaxing kid-free evening with us."
"To give all our guests the opportunity to let their hair down and have a good time without having to worry about little eyes and ears, we politely request no children."
Ceremony Only: "Children are welcome to the ceremony, however to allow all of our guests to enjoy an evening of relaxation, we politely request adult attendance only."
Can I bring my new bae?
You already had to cut down your guest list and shave off Aunt Suzy and Cousin Jon... but now your college girlfriend wants to bring her new bae—who you've never met before? Yikes. While you want each invited guest to have a great time, plus ones can get out of hand if you've got a lot of single ladies and gents in attendance.
Just like the no kids announcement, a wedding website is a great place to house this info. If you'd rather not have complete strangers witness your I dos, make sure this is clear.
If you are OK with it, simply address with "& guest"!
What should I wear?
First, get familiar with traditional wedding attire wording for invites. Our friends at Shutterfly have a great rundown:
- Black tie (tuxedos and formal gowns)
- Formal, black tie optional (suit and tie and dresses)
- Semi-formal (suit and tie and cocktail dresses)
- Cocktail attire (suits and party dresses)
- Beach or garden party attire (summer suits and summer dresses)
- Casual (button down shirts or polos and summer sundresses or a skirt or pants with a nice blouse)
It's always a good idea to make this clear right on the invitation but you can also add this info on your wedding website, too.
For Destination Weddings
Do you have a room block?
If you've already secured a room block, make sure to provide this info for your guests. This can go right on the invitations, or your wedding website if you wish to provide more detailed info. Things to include:
- Travel dates (when your room block time period begins and ends)
- # of rooms available
- Types of rooms available
What do you recommend to do in the area?
Your wedding website is also a great place to put this info! This is especially helpful if your guests will have ample time to themselves before and after wedding events such as a rehearsal or welcome dinner or a farewell brunch.
Lastly, if you'd rather not be the go-to for guest questions, kindly ask a member of your bridal party if they can help by being the point of contact and if they are OK with you putting their email or phone on your wedding website.
If you do prefer to be the contact, you can also simply list your email only rather than your phone number, which will deter guests from calling or texting you randomly when you're in the middle of a dress fitting or a cake tasting. No one likes to be interrupted when they're eating cake!