There’s no way around it, when planning a wedding you’re bound to run into a few Negative Nancys. You know the type – the people dishing out unsolicited advice or better ways of designing YOUR day. Fear not brides because our girl Kristin Joy of Bridentity Crisis is here to teach you simple ways to tune out the haters and enjoy every second of the planning journey.
From Bridentity Crisis… For a day that is supposed to be about you and your significant other, it seems like everyone has an opinion on your wedding: parents, siblings, friends, bridesmaids—even my mailman weighed in on my big day decisions when, after seeing my save-the-dates, he mentioned that he would prefer if I use a more legible font for the invitation envelopes. I was shocked! But it made me realize that if I wanted to survive this wedding planning process, I was going to need to learn to cope with stressful people in an effective and easy way. So my wedding gift to you: 3 tips on how to deal with stressful people when planning your wedding.
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You may want to tell off anyone who asks about your wedding plans and then volunteers their “better” idea, but rather than try to defend your decisions, I suggest just playing along. Give them a line like, “Good suggestion, I hadn’t thought of that…” and swiftly change the subject. Because odds are if someone feels comfortable enough offering up their thoughts on something that is clearly none of their business, then they probably aren’t going to respect that your mind is made up, either. But by acknowledging their comments you will make them feel like they’ve helped, which is what their intentions were all along. And it will quickly shut down an awkward convo!
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I think every bride should stack her wedding party with a few different people: someone who will help her remain calm when things get crazy, someone who will listen to her when she’s stressed, and someone who will help her to laugh and enjoy the day. Whether it’s your maid of honor, a fun-loving groomsmen, or even your MIL-to-be, you’ll be happy that you’ve gathered a group of people who truly have your best interest at heart when things get overwhelming.
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An easy way to avoid unnecessary stress? By actually liking your vendors. It sounds like a no-brainer, but I’ve seen so many people book vendors because their friend used them at their wedding or because they’ve read good reviews online. But the reality is, not everyone is looking for the same qualities in their team of professionals—your friend may enjoy a drill sergeant-esque wedding planner while you prefer someone a little more friendly. Truth be told, if I would’ve taken this advice to heart, I would have had some major changes in my vendor lineup. So think about what you want out of a vendor and your experience with that person, and keep that in mind as you meet. Because the last thing you want is to book someone who will add to your stress, not take it away.
Happy wedding planning! xoxo, Bridentity Crisis
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