TH,
For veils of all kinds, including birdcage or face blushers, you should check out Sara Gabriel (amazing stuff and very reputable). She also has headpieces, jewelry, and more. I ordered my veil through one of the vendors listed on her website and the process was seamless and they give great follow up. Delivery is approximately 6 weeks, so it depends on how tight your timeline is.
http://www.saragabriel.com
If you are not too scared off by your unfortunate etsy-experience, you should check out other etsy vendors. The two I've listed below have been mentioned in a number of SMP-featured weddings and I'm currently working with both of these vendors for items for my November wedding. Hope this helps, CJ
http://www.etsy.com/shop.php?user_id=6465412
- Twigs & Honey (this vendor also has her own website in addition to selling on etsy)
http://www.etsy.com/shop.php?user_id=5060316
http://twigsandhoney.com/index.html