The only wedding speech I've ever given was at my sister's wedding. She asked me to do it 20 minutes before the wedding—surprise Melissa! Thanks sis. I was a blubbering mess but one thing is for sure, it came straight from the heart, probably because I didn't have months to dread it. If you're one of the lucky guys or gals asked to make a speech (and ahem, actually have time to prepare for it), you'll want to cozy up to this helpful and if I may add, quite amusing video from Long Haul Films and Love 24 fps. Cheers!
From Tom Dowler of Long Haul Films... We witness a huge range of wedding speeches—some that are funny, some that are touching, and, unfortunately, some that aren't very good. The real key to giving a great wedding speech is authenticity and confidence. Many times when a speech goes badly - if it descends into an awkward roast or someone delivers a poorly-executed song-and-dance routine - it's because the speaker isn't confident that they'll be interesting enough if they keep it real. But the best speeches are just that—people speaking from the heart with love and authenticity.
Wedding Speech Tips Recapped
- Memorize your speech. Write down key bullet points on index cards to help jog your memory if needed.
- Forget about "winging it". The best speeches are those that have been carefully crafted and rehearsed so they look off-the-cuff, but are anything but.
- Cut out the sarcasm and speak from the heart. This can often be tougher for guys, but remember, this is a wedding, so people expect even the hardest-nosed bro to get a little emotional.
- Keep it simple. Unless you're a professional, don't attempt a song or a poem instead of a speech. If you're sincere and authentic, you'll get a great reaction.
- Think of a pithy metaphor that sums up the happy couple's relationship, and use it as the thematic backbone of your speech.
- A drink can be great to calm the nerves, but be super careful not to overdo it. Make sure the guests are talking about your speech the next day for all the right reasons.
- Leave the microphone on the mic stand. That way you'll stay in one spot instead of nervously pacing, and you'll have two free hands—one for your notes and the other for your toasting glass.