We met at a local yoga studio where the groom was taking yoga lessons for the first time, but didn’t want to be a creep and hit on another student at the studio. When he found out that his future bride was a public school teacher, he took the opportunity to connect on a professional level. Their first “date” was to a talk given by then Connecticut attorney general, Richard Blumenthal on Connecticut’s role in global warming. The talk was in the Wesleyan University Memorial Chapel. The groom was intending to keep things “professional” until his future wife hooked her foot around his calf while they sat in the pews, at which point the groom had the remarkable feeling that the woman “hooking his leg” would become his lifelong love and they would marry.
She was more skeptical and guarded regarding the future, but very interested in him, nonetheless.
The groom proposed on the brides’ birthday, waking her up (at 6:30 am!) with the proposal and the ring. To celebrate they went to a local gourmet diner known for its breakfasts and service to the local community. We extended this celebration to include family when attending the bride’s nieces’ joint birthday party the next day.
We were engaged in late February and married in August. We knew we would not fuss much over every last detail of the wedding. It’s just not our style. Having said that, we wanted a wedding that reflected our personalities and values as individuals. We value family (this includes friends), food, music, and nature’s beauty.
First, the bride and groom discussed the vision for having a wedding with an emphasis on relationships among family and friends. The groom’s parents’ home offered a casual, comfortable, and beautifully distinct, customizable setting. The bride and groom were able to successfully implement their creative vision through engaging the help of family and friends in planning, landscaping, and decorating. (Thank goodness for help!) The effort and results were collaborative and the celebration reflected the satisfaction and joy of completing a task together.
We wanted to have a focus on high quality comfort food that we could eat with our hands and enjoy with our souls. We also wanted soulful music to get people on the dance floor. We wanted the wedding to be a party that celebrated the love we have for one another and for our families, new and old.
We knew we wanted a semi-DIY wedding. The bride and her friend cut and sewed 400 banners to serve as decoration for the tent. The vibe of the décor and wedding as a whole could be described as bright, relaxed, vintage. Shades of blue, yellow, and red were selected as the colors after much deliberation. The bride LOVES vibrant colors of every sort, so this was very difficult. Finding the bridesmaids’ dress at BHLDN helped to define the palette.
The groom had total autonomy over his attire, including his sneakers. Groomsmen were asked to wear seersucker pants, a white shirt, and shoes/sneakers of any color. One forgot to buy the pants, so he wore white. And we didn’t mind.
The bride and groom hand-picked every song played during the ceremony, cocktail hour, dinner, and dancing.
One of the bride’s favorite moments of the day was walking down the aisle to the theme to the movie True Romance. A friend advised me to stop and take it all in and I did. I came out of the house with my parents, walked down the stairs, saw all the smiling, joyous faces, and stopped for a moment. “I want to take in this moment,” I told myself as all the guests looked on.
Having my sister, a Rutgers University professor, and Buster’s uncle, a retired principal and JP, officiate our wedding is a special touch to the ceremony. Also, included in the intimate group of seventy or so were four of the bride’s family from Italy; one, visiting the U.S. for the first time, another, having returned after almost 40 years. Of all the gifts we received, this was most precious. So, naturally because of these special guests and the fact that the bride’s parents and other family are Italian immigrants, it would be fitting to include some Italian tunes to liven up the party.
Photography: IRIS Photography / Invitations: “Barn Party” by meg + emm, Minted / Flowers: Gutt Farm + DIY / Catering: All Smoked Up / Flowers: Gutt’s Family Farm, Glastonbury, CT, father of the bride / Event Planning + Design: DIY / Ceremony + Reception Location: Groom’s parents’ house/backyard / Dress Designer: Blush by JLM / Bridesmaid Dress Designer: “Beribboned Dress” BHLDN / Men's Suits: J.Crew / Men's Sneakers: Vans / Men's Sunglasses: Persol / 1940’s estate engagement ring: Peter Suchy Jewelers / Wedding cupcakes: Jaime Jo Powers / Music: A&B Entertainment, DJ Stephen A. Morgan