Comments on: Thank You Note Etiquette

By: sarah

sarah — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 19:30:54 +0000

You addressed this to some extent, but I’m still unsure about the flat versus folded thank you note. Will one be viewed as more proper or formal? I’ve never seen, received or sent a flat thank you note. But, now that I’m looking, my favorite invitation only has a flat thank you note to match. Do most people view the flat cards as equally proper and thankful?

By: Lisa Hoffman

Lisa Hoffman — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 18:52:01 +0000

Hi Liz, to answer your question, the timing is up to you. But from my experience, typically the most presents are sent right around or before the wedding. So I think it’s safe to say that you can thank them when you get back from your honeymoon when you’re still in the “bliss” of it all. I know the longer you wait after your wedding, the sincerity of your thank you note wouldn’t seem as authentic. Plus, maybe it might work in your favor and remind them to send you something if they perhaps forgot! You never know… Hope that helps. – Ceci

By: Abbey

Abbey — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 17:59:17 +0000

My cousin photographed our wedding and so we had access to the photos sooner than most. I took three different photos and had folded thank you notes made with the pictures (glossy finish) right after the wedding. I think our guests really appreciated seeing photos from the event – it made them relive just a bit of it. Plus I like to think maybe they kept our card around with our photo.

By: Angel

Angel — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 17:45:28 +0000

Lisa, thanks so much for all the great advice! It’s definitely one of those areas where it helps to have an organized, solid plan to make sure you send them out in a timely fashion. High five Abby for such a great topic, thank you, thank you, thank you!!

By: Liz

Liz — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 17:05:06 +0000

At one point should we thank people for coming if they haven’t sent a gift (yet)?

Thanks!

By: Lisa Hoffman

Lisa Hoffman — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 15:58:35 +0000

Hi Alison, I’m so glad I could help. It’s so much easier on you to write them as soon as you open the gifts. Gets it out of the way too. That way when you come back from your honeymoon you can just enjoy being married with your new husband! – Ceci

By: Alison

Alison — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 15:17:52 +0000

Lisa, thank you so much for all this great information. We are getting married at the end of this month and have recently begun receiving gifts in the mail. I didn’t know if I should wait to send all my Thank Yous together after the honeymoon or start writing and sending now, and now i know!

By: Giovanna

Giovanna — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 14:45:41 +0000

Thank you! That is perfect!