Lynda Barness, owner of I Do Wedding Consulting in Philadelphia, has written this great tip sheet on planning a destination wedding…I wanted to share her top tips with you guys because I know that there are quite a few of you planning destination weddings!
From Lynda…
A destination wedding… whether it is in the mountains, on the beach, or just anywhere that is a bit far from home… can be both exciting and challenging. Here are ten tips to make a destination wedding stress-free:
1. Put everything in writing. You will want to make sure that everyone is literally on the same page, and documenting what you are expecting is one way to make sure this happens. This is particularly important if you are dealing with a venue that is in a place where English is not the only language. You want to be sure that your messages have been conveyed and understood. And, if possible, know some rudimentary words if you are in a place with a foreign language. (This really helps!)
2. Check all room reservations and their locations. Does a child have to have a room near a parent’s? Are there adjoining rooms? Will the hotel deliver welcome bags to guests, and is there a charge for this service?
3. Know your guests’ limitations. What about access for those with physical disabilities? Remember that foreign countries may not have the same requirements for ramps and other means of assistance that you may find in the US. Let the venue know of your guests’ needs, in room assignments, transportation, and any other situation.
4. Know exactly where to find a doctor, where the doctor’s office is located, what the hours are, and what the costs and means of payment may be. You do not want to wait until there is a mishap to figure this out. Investigate ahead of time!
5. Carry as much as possible with you if you are traveling by air. You will not want to pay mailing or import costs, for example, on gift bags for hotel guests. Check with the airline ahead of time if you have questions. And this includes traveling with a wedding gown.
6. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want. If you need a golf cart to help you get around at a resort or need help from the hotel staff to assist in decorating tables, just ask. You may be surprised at the willingness of others to assist.
7. Make sure you have a back-up plan for rain. And for everything else! Think about “what if.”
8. Take a moment to think about climate conditions. If you are going to a warm climate, remember that you may also be in (very cold) air conditioning, and plan accordingly. Think about sun screen, bottled water, and a sweater. And if you are going to a cold climate, think about layers. Conditions vary, and you want to be prepared without overloading suitcases.
9. Carry an emergency kit. Have your hotel/resort’s phone number on your speed dial or at least in your address book. Hire a wedding coordinator at home and, if possible, bring that coordinator to the wedding. If possible, bring your own team of wedding consultants, photographers, and videographers. All of these may be available at your hotel/resort, but you will find that the coordination will be smoother if you have your own team in place.
10. Do whatever you can to have a non-stop flight or at least one where you don’t have to change planes, gates, or terminals. It is not fun to miss a connection due to weather (think about the groom’s children ending up in Detroit instead of Cancun) or the airlines (think about sitting on the tarmac in Atlanta because there is no gate available to de-plane, and thus missing the connecting flight home).
And…enjoy!
I would love to hear YOUR tips on planning a destination wedding…no matter how large or small, all ideas are welcome!








Comment by Tate on 5 February 2008:
I am planning a destination wedding for this coming Memorial Day weekend at the Round Hill Resort in Jamaica for about 100 or so guests. My top two tips for planning are:
1)Hire a Planner-having someone who knows the location intimately is a huge help. We have hired both an NYC based planner (JoAnn Gregoli of Elegant Occassions–she has years of experience planning far fkug events) as well as working with Round Hill’s planner in Jamaica. They have been integral in keeping things on track, and I can’t imagine doing it without their help.
2)Don’t be afraid to bring in your own talent–though we are trying to use local Jamaican vendors as much as possible, we were still not afraid to look to local NYC photographers (the incompbrable Cappy Hotchkiss)and our band (the incredible Sharon Jones and the Dap Kings) You’ll be happy you did!
Comment by Janet on 5 February 2008:
We just had a destination wedding this past Nov. Here are the things that helped (or would have helped)
1) Writing everything helps, but better yet send a picture or a drawing of everything, exactly the way that you would like it done. You might come across vendors who speak very little English and pictures speak louder than words anyway. (like I did with my hairdresser.)
2) Go visit the venue and take pictures of everything. I know some brides don’t but I found it to be of tremendous help in planning out the details for the wedding. Also, it helps your peace of mind.
3) Expect that things will not go exactly as planned. Depending on the country, people do not do things exactly like at home and will be surprising when encountered. Take it in stride. Also, with everyone travelling (and you travelling) there are bound to be people and things that do not arrive (or you forgot to bring).
4) Save some luggage space and purchase the favors from your DW area. I had different favors and the guests’ favorite was the choice of Mexican hot sauces that I got at my DW location.
5) Enjoy the vacation with your wedding guests. That is the part of the experience that makes DWs so special.
Comment by wedding photographer on 6 February 2008:
Excellent tips, thanks for sharing. Remember that with more and more brides choosing destination weddings, more and more vendors are willing to travel with you. Of course, catering has to be done on site. But you can hire a wedding planner, photographer and videographer in your home town.
Comment by steph on 17 February 2008:
Please don’t think I’m dense, but did you ever post the How To’s for the DIY contest? I can’t find them!?
Comment by Lisa on 24 April 2008:
I ditto the last comment. I couldn’t find the posts either. Suggestions/directions?
Comment by abby larson on 24 April 2008:
We posted a few of the most requested. We are going to post them in full when we launch our new site in the next month or so…feel free to email me if there are specific ones that you are looking for!
Abby