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Q3 – I am getting married in May 2008 in a church. My bridesmaid’s dresses are a tea length dusty rose color. My STD were beige, brown, and rose along with my invitations. Where do I go from here and can I change my color scheme for the wedding?? What other colors go with Dusty Rose??
Okay, first and foremost…as an invitation designer who firmly believes that invitations do set the tone for the entire wedding, I also believe in a bride’s right to change her mind! If you have decided that you are no longer wanting the dusty rose look…don’t think twice about moving on and choosing a new palette. Your guests will never know the difference.
With that said, I have always loved the dusty rose, champagne, cream and brown combination. This palette has been a favorite of mine since I stumbled into the wedding industry. It’s elegant, it’s feminine, it’s just gorgeous. But what is really inspiring me right now…is the dusty rose, paired with ultra pale pinks, creams and deep burgundy…
By adding a deep purple or burgundy (black even), you get this amazing contrast that seems to make all of the subtle hues really pop.
I like the idea of incorporating gold or champagne into the palette. If that is too similar to the current color scheme, what about black or white? White is popping up everywhere and brings a crisp, fresh look to weddings.
I definitely don't think it's too late to make a color change and also don't think stationary has to necessarily match the wedding style/colors. The only person who would notice a minor detail like this, would be the bride herself. Do what's going to make you happy, try not to think too much about tradition and etiquitte in this case!
While it's nice if the invitation can reflect the look of the wedding, I don't think it should limit the bride. I recently did an inspiration board that was blue and pink, so I think pale blue could be a really nice accent to the pink.
I am getting married in May too, and I am using gold and ivory as my colors, with pink and peach accents.
Unless you were planning on being featured in Martha Stewart Weddings, you don't need to have your stationary match perfectly. In the end, I think we brides go soo nuts over planning one day that we lose sight of the fact that your main focus should be marrying the person you love and having a great party to celebrate that with your friends and family. Definately work to have it look nice, but in the end, no one will remember whether your bridesmaids dressess matched the stationary, but they will remember the couple and how happy they looked and whether or not everyone enjoyed themselves.
I second the gold/champagne suggestion. Also, a little sage or pale grass green could fit in nicely. About keeping the stationary colors in the wedding...I agree with the other comments: it's not a big deal. That being said, I think there's something visually pleasing about introducing the colors of the day with the STD and Invites and following through on the actual day. It gives people what to expect stylistically and can be comforting to some guests who don't know what's appropriate to wear(i'm speaking from my own experience on this one!)
Besides, I think a reception in dusty rose, browns, and gold (or green) would be drop dead gorgeous.
Don't worry about fulfilling your perfectly coordinated ideals. It's good to have a vision, but also to be flexible if something you like better comes along. Don't make yourself stick with something you don't really love.
That being said, if you're still committed to dusty rose why not make it tone-on-tone and do ballet pink, dusty rose, and burgundany. Go to the paint store and find tones that look good together using paint chips to stay in one color family.
without knowing more about the style you are envisioning or the place... I would consider:
-navy blue or a sky blue...
-sage or leaf green...
-maybe a warm gray
or as suggested- a peach and/or champagne would be lovely or simply working in multiple shades of pink- add blush and maybe even a few touches of raspberry
and i have to say- use whatever color combos that you love and that you find yourself the most excited about...
If you are getting married in a church and it has stained glass, possibly draw inspiration from the color palettes in the glass or the church itself. I wouldn't worry about the invitations matching because you are the only one who will notice that detail. Maybe consider a dusty rose, sage green, champagne, and deep purple palette.
It is my personal belief that STD's and invitations set the tone for your wedding and give guests a mysterious idea of what to look forward to on your special day. However, it is great to expand on what you did! Since your BM dresses are already chosen you obviously are not getting rid of the dusty rose. So, I would say stick with your color palette of beige, brown, and dusty rose while adding in splashes metallic. Some already metioned champagne and gold. I personally would love to see bronze and champagne mixed in to this color scheme instead of gold. Bronze is such a rich color and paired with the champagne would be just gorgeous! Plus it's a little more unexpected than gold! It may be a bit more difficult to find but it's your wedding day so it's worth it! :) I would use tie in small accents of bronze. Like jewelry and shoes for the BM's...Since bronze has hues of rose it would reflect of the dresses beautifully!
can you pls tell me who made the dusty pink dress?
Sure! It's Nicole Miller...
http://www.brides.com/fashion/dresses/gallery/bridesmaid_dresses/vendor/designer/nicolemiller/detail/164014?offset=6&page=1 " rel="nofollow">http://www.brides.com/fashion/dresses/gallery/bridesmaid_dresses/vendor/designer/nicolemiller/detail/164014?offset=6&page=1 />
This is a bouquet that I just did for a bride with a dusty rose, burgundy, champagne and lilac color scheme. Sorry for the blurry picture: http://www.katieelfers.com/Blog/2008_02_22_archive.html#6014701888145348527 " rel="nofollow">http://www.katieelfers.com/Blog/2008_02_22_archive.html#6014701888145348527
The wedding was STUNNING!
My bridesmaids dresses are by Badgley Mischka. Thank you for all the suggestions!! They have been extremely helpful!
Just wondering what types of flowers they are? Especially the ones with the ivory/pink petals and the dark centers?
My bridesmaid dresses are also Badgley Mischka Dusty Rose, and my colors will be Dusty Rose and Plum, I am getting married in March.
This is my bridesmaid dress: http://www.brides.com/fashion/dresses/gallery/bridesmaid_dresses/vendor/designer/badgley_mischka_bridesmaids/detail/139515?offset=4&page=1 " rel="nofollow">http://www.brides.com/fashion/dresses/gallery/bridesmaid_dresses/vendor/designer/badgley_mischka_bridesmaids/detail/139515?offset=4&page=1
And here's an idea of the dusty rose/plum scheme: http://weddings.theknot.com/theknottv/knot_tv_ondemand.aspx?id=3z99m914 " rel="nofollow">http://weddings.theknot.com/theknottv/knot_tv_ondemand.aspx?id=3z99m914 > (in the video, they'll talk about the dusty rose/plum color trend)
The picture of the dress beside the flowers? This dress is exactly what I am looking for as bridemaid dresses? Could anyone tell me where they are from?? It would be so greatly appreciated! you can email me on gems5@hotmail.co.uk
Thanks
I know the dress is Nicole Miller. I'm getting married in August and want those dresses too but can't find them! Help!!